...why so many people are psychotically against same sex marriages. Because I am still, to this day, having an insanely difficult time grasping the concept.

I'm not gay, let me point this out. So no, I don't have an "agenda". I really don't have any type of "agenda". I have opinions, all of which I like to back up with logical reason, a character trait I am proud of since so many people seem to lack it. I do however, know a lot of gay people, gay men in particular. And, I have seen a lot of absolutely retarded rhetoric when it comes to the whole debate. So, to start off, here are the top 5 reasons people believe gay marriage should be banned.

1.) In the bible, it is a sin (depending on how you read the bible, but we won't go there). Marriage is a 3000 year old institution and "screwing around" with it is a bad idea. There is a reason it has stayed the same over the many generations (Oh Anne Coulter, you senseless slut you).

5.) Being gay is a "choice", and thus can not be equated to the civil rights movement of African Americans and women, as they were "born that way".

Okay, deep breath here, because typing those in general made me want to slam my head on my desk. So, that's just a starting off point. A lot of people probably have other opinions as to why gay marriage is bad, but those are the big ones. So, here we go folks, why all 5 of those "arguments" are just ridiculously stupid.

1.) Thanks to a little document called the Constitution, "religion" and religious ideas of morality are not the laws of this fabulously democratic land of ours. While many Christians (and Jews for that matter) think our laws are based on Judeo-Christian morals, they aren't. They are basd on good old common sense, something most mainstream religions have absolutely none of. So until Jews get a law passed saying no one is allowed to mix meat and cheese because the Torah says it's a sin, this whole "The Bible says it's wrong" thing really isn't cutting it. Oh yeah, and that whole "separation of church and state" thing.

As for Coulter's brain fart, I'll just assume she never took any history classes, never saw braveheart, read or saw pride and prejudice, never took a romantic or victorian literature class, and never visited cultures outside of the down home country folks of American. This 3000 year old institution she speakss of has had more image changes than Madonna. Marriage was not always the swoon, romance, soul mate, down on one knee, throw the bouquet and everyone lives happily ever after in an upperclass white suburban neighborhood with 3 kids a dog and an SUV she seems to think it's always been. Marriage, for a majority of time, was a business agreement between two families. Last I checked, a girl who wanted to get married didn't need to have some form of payment in order to coax the guy into it dowry). Last I checked, Americans weren't being pawned off to rival families in order to unite and gain land and property. Last I checked, most women (though there are exceptions) don't date for 4 days, see a good name and get hitched within a week. And as for the traditional values of marriage, there ARE still arranged marriages in other cultures, there ARE still people who practice polygomy (in the non child molestor way...think Big Love), and there ARE still people who challenge the institution of marriage on a daily basis. So to assume that marriage has always been this "my best friends wedding" type of affair, is typical of the bitch's lack of information.

2.) I don't know what kind of marriages homophobic conservatives (not to turn it political, but to generalize) have these days, but if their entire marriage and relationship hangs in the balance of OTHER people's marriage and relationship, maybe it's not really the gays fault there. My hair dresser is gay (no stereotype jokes here). He has a gay boyfriend, who is has been dating for four years. He's 27. I have been seieng my boyfriend for a year now, and pretty much figure that he's the one I'm going to end up with. Now if I were to get married, and my friends were to get married, on my wedding day I would not think to myself "hmm, this marriage means nothing anymore because this guy and this guy are getting married! To hell with my marriage and relationship!". And if someone pulls that, they are looking for a cheap way out. If your marriage revolves around what other people do with their lives, maybe you should consider some counseling. I didn't think having people WANT a monogomous relationship hunders the idea of marriage, I thought people NOT wanting the monogomous relationship hinders it. You know, adultery, divorce, etc?

3.) Oh Bill Dunn, sometimes I have to think secretly you are a gay activist, because no one would say something that ridiculously stupid and look at it as a "goal for their side". Using Bill's logic of the whole "if we legalize gay marriage our population will die out", we could then assume that after interracial marriages were legalized, EVERYONE, even people who were in relationships with members of their own race, suddenly jumped ship and swam over to the "I want to make multiracial babies" booze cruise. Now, seeing as we still have solid white, and solid black, I'm gonna go out on a limb and assume that just because something became legal, didn't mean it made everyone want to do it. Gay people who want to get married, are gay regardless of whether or not they can get married. Letting gay people getting married isn't suddenly going to turn the entire population gay, this rendering it physically impossible to conceive a child within a marriage that would have the genes of both parents. After all, invitro is a fabulous thing. As for the idea he posed that marriage is a rght afforded to those who can procreate because marriage is meant to make families. Well then, with that logic, why don't we just ban any woman who is barron or any man who is infertile from ever getting hitched also. Because clearly since they can't procreate the population that is apparently going to decrease after gay marriage is legalized, they have no reason whatsoever to marry. Love ain't a thing. And I mean adoption, clearly out of the question. You know what, we should make people sign a contract saying "I swear after i get married i will have babies and populate the earth just liek Bill Dunn wants me to", this way people who dont want kids won't be able to get the benefits either. Yep, marriage is all about the babies, and Bill Dunn is out to make sure there aren't any loiterers outside the real reasons to get married store.

4.) Tell that to the thousands of children who have been afforded two loving parents who support them, help them, and encourage them. Tell that to the single mothers and fathers (like my mother) who work hard every day to be both parents for their children. Tell that to me, the girl who lost her father at 16, and has been given strength and meaning from my mom's courage and support. Tell that to the thousands of coke addicts, pot heads, murders, high school drop outs, teen mothers, who had a mommy, a daddy, a bmw, and every opportunity in the world to squander. Tell that to the child who has an abusive mother, an alcoholic father, and a complete lack of support. Having a mother and a father doesn't make a good kid. Having PARENTS that are involved and care and teach makes good kids.

5.) Here's a challenge for you; if you are a straight man, go up to another man, kiss him, and see if you get an erection. In fact, see if you feel anything at all. Do you consciously choose to be heterosexual? Do you make the choice daily to be straigth instead of macking it with other guys or girls? No. It's just what you do. I am straight, therefor I like guys. I like penis, I like sex with guys, end of story. I have kissed a girl before (drunk), and felt nothing. IN fact, I was a little skeeved. I was not aroused, and in general I never look at girls with attraction. It's just not in me to do so. So now imagine someone telling you or me that we could change all that; We could make ourselves like other men or women. Wouldn't you be like "um, no, I like the opposite sex, sorry, it's not working"? Of course you would. Because you can't change what is just inside you to feel. Being heterosexual is an innate quality, you didn't CHOOSE to like the opposite sex, it's just what you do. So to assume that someone chooses on a daily bases to go against what they really want and hook up with guys, is ridiculous. RIDICULOUS.

So there you have it folks. I've yet to find an anti gay argument I couldn't destroy, but if you have one, go for it. Enlighten me. Tell me why we should continue to have one generalized, white, upperclass idea of what a family is, when our country is filled with divorce, widows, wiidowers, single moms, single dads, adopted kids, step brothers and sisters. Keep telling those families who have gay kids, gay parents, gay uncles, aunts, sisters, brothers, that their family isn't "real", that they don't matter because they don't have a mom baking cookies and a dad making the money. Go ahead. Just keep in mind that segregation was once the "traditional" value in this country. It was once a tradition to make white people seem superior to black people. It was once a tradition to forbid love between races. It was once a tradition to OWN PEOPLE. Traditions are not always right. There is always room for improvement. Everyon deserves to pursue happiness, and who among any of us have a right to dictate what constitutes "happy"?

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