From the very first date s/he will start dramatizing about his/her life, projecting to be the victim of the world. S/he will tell you too much about his/her ex-spouse, his past ex-girlfriends/boyfriends, his/her colleagues. How apathetic! Usually such people are the total opposite of what they project to be. So be very aware.

From the very first date s/he will endlessly boast about his/her achievements giving you little or no time to speak. How superficial! Who wants to go out with a self-inflated balloon?!

The person will project him/herself to be the perfect being to be with. No one is as loving and as committed as him/her. Something is really fishy here! Prepare yourself to a cheater!

Be careful of anyone who tries to sweep you off your feet too much, to soon with his/her wishful dreaming. S/he will promise you to take to wonderful places without taking interest of trying to get to know you first.

S/he is always late, flirts with everyone to make you feel jealous and s/he replies hours after texting, calling or answering half the calls. Let him/her enjoy playing with his/her own ego!

This is the total opposite of the latter, i.e. over eager and too demanding. Calling or texting too soon and too much shows insecurity. Who wants to be with an insecure person?! We are drawn to people in society that are socially confident. Learn to become confident!

Always take full attention of body language and trust your guts. If you got a fluttery feeling in your stomach, make sure it is a sign of excitement and not a warning. If a person has already treated you badly, throw this rotten fish back into his/her sea.

We tend to feel caught with wanting to give the person a second chance. We convince ourselves or let ourselves be convinced that things will change. No they won't!

What may seem ideal for you may be perceived as wrong or apathetic to your partner. Accept the fact that other peoples' needs and likes may differ from yours. Moreover, if you keep being dumped, maybe something is really wrong with you and you need to make a reshuffle on your attitude and your perceptions.

Never become obsessed with someone you can never have. There are so many more fish in the sea, so many others who actually deserve your love. Never hurt yourself for someone who will never learn to appreciate you. In fact many people are single not because they are lonely, but because they refuse to settle for someone less than what they expect or deserve. So choose your diving spot well!

Natasha Turner has just published a book called "RelationDips", thoroughly outlining the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships. This book will surely help people clear their mind from all the cobwebs they have created through the misconceptions and misperceptions of the term 'love'.

Natasha has also published an educational book for children, made up of interesting and enjoyable stories called "Rancu, s-Sindku tal-Grancijiet" and another resource book for all children called "Kun Int" which deals with developing skills and empowering the Self, since many kids suffer from Bullying and other social problems.

She has also published two poetry books in Maltese which reveal deep feelings and sarcastic thoughts about all types of relationships. The books are called "Bejn in-Narratur u n-Narrata" and "Neij-Jien" which are an interesting voyage in search for the hidden Self.

Natasha Turner is a psychology graduate teaching P.S.D and a psycho-social writer. Her motto is: Live the moment to the full without hurting yourself and others.

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